Frenemies

The other day, in the midst of my travels, I spotted one of my friends enemies bitches frenemies.  She was someone I'd known for years, but after a while, during the worst summer of my life I stepped back and realized that, you know what, not only is this girl not really my friend, she doesn't even like me.  It's a hard thing to do, casting friends from your life.  In  some ways I'd even advise you against it, because it literally is like scraping away your history, and removing elements of yourself.  Certain jokes aren't funny anymore, places that you once enjoyed turn sour, and friendship groups can swiftly turn into uncomfortable stares from strangers.

It was one of the hardest things I had to do.  I'd already lost several of my closest friendship groups, and now having to bin one of my oldest friendships seemed like the final straw.  I had to sit and think, of all the reasons why this person was no longer my friend.  Everyone says, cut people out of your life if they're no good for you, you will move on and find new people.  That's rubbish.  I mean you can make the effort and find ways to interact with new people, but in no way does that mean they'll be a suitable replacement for your lost friend.  It also doesn't mean that these new people will want you, or have a vacancy for a new friend.  Sometimes it comes down to luck. 

It was losing my friends, that effectively made me lose part of my self.  I was depressed, lost, and became a recluse, not wanting to leave the house and remember.  It's funny how other people's influence, can ultimately shape us as people.  Of course now I'm fine.  Now I'm mostly a vengeful spirit, hell bent on getting what's mine, and refusing to let anyone prevent my own destiny or success.

However, seeing this old frenemy did make me falter, momentarily.  I had to quickly run through a list of reasons why she could no longer be my friend, and unfortunately the cons more than outweighed the dwindling pros.  I've compiled a short list of mine, but maybe there are some I'm missing?  

• There are serious
  elements of this person that you do not like, but you don’t bring them up as it
  would cause an argument.


• You can think of
  five reasons you dislike this person in a minute.


• You find that you
  don’t actually like them, just who
  they used to be to you.


• You feel as if they
  are trying to compete with you, rather than support you.


• They always talk about themselves.


• They only enjoy
  conversations concerning you, if something bad is happening to you.


• They tell other
  people your business.


• You don't trust
  them.  You also don't trust them around
  your boyfriend/ prospective partner/ crush


• You have to prevent
  yourself from openly insulting them during a conversation.


• You start thinking
  of excuses to cancel dates with them.


• You feel like
  you're giving way too much within your friendship.  You feel that they
  give you nothing in return.


• You don't want to
  go shopping with them, or tell them where you have bought certain
  clothes. 


• You are friends with them out
  of habit, not out of choice. 


• You feel that they are using
  you, or that they drop you when other friends are around.


• You refer to this person in
  expletives in your mind. ☺