Since I was a little girl, and I mean little, women have possessed the sole purpose to eliminate or undermine me. I don't know what it is, or why but there it is. I know you're not supposed to say this, because it makes you sound conceited, or that you think you're worth more than you are. But this is my blog, and I'm fed up of thinking these things and letting them escalate.
From my time in nursery and having a jealous woman always tell me off and send me to the naughty corner, to my time in primary school and having a crowd of black girls bully me until I needed counselling, to secondary school and bullying from female teachers who informed me that due to my enviable figure, I did not need to worry about my grades and encouraged my failure, and finally to work, where my reserved nature somehow became confused with 'pushover' I say now that it is enough.
I had a 'friend' stay with me for 4 days. She attempted to ruin me by not only finding out information about men she knew would devastate me (and telling me on my birthday- thanks! ;) ), flirting shamelessly with my male friends, as well as attempting to monopolise my life into a complete mess by wasting my time.
Nowadays the lines between arrogance and awareness have been lost. Well I think I'll say it. Someone has to. If you are attractive, men like you, and women who don't know you choose not to, it is clear that you are seen as a threat. Don't sit like a fool twiddling your thumbs expecting the best from people. Don't put it down as odd, or a bad experience. If it's happened to you more than 3 times, it will happen again.
But I never considered that you could have a friend who feels the same resentment towards you and hides it, in order to sabotage your efforts. Any time I bought a dress that would look good, I didn't realize I had a 'friend' secretly hating me in it or thinking they could do better if I were out of the picture!
Why do women do this? I don't pretend to be any woman's friend in order to undermine her. I don't admire the whole wolf in a sheep's clothing game. I don't do bullshit.
So I think my lesson here is know what you're working with. Because there is no point being meek about what you've got, when others can see it too, and want to ruin it. If people find you attractive, and you've had mysterious cases of women resenting you without knowing you, you are a threat. It doesn't mean you have to think you are more stush than you are. But it does mean it's time to watch your back. There be bitches in these woods, and I'm not waiting for anyone to start biting on me.
Oooh yes. I'm going to change my hair soon. I loved the senegalese twists but I'm fed up of old Rasta men chatting me up ;) till next time.
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Hey, why are you so angry with these young women? Do you have any female friends that you can trust, or do you feel this way about every female you come in contact with?
ReplyDeleteI think you've unfortunately been around a lot of vindictive and deceitful women, and I'm sorry for that. I just need you to understand that not all women are like that and you can find friends of the same sex. It's not easy, but it's possible. You need to weed out the bad ones from your life to do that. Never keep someone in your life who isn't adding anything to it.
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@ The O.A.W
Hi. Thanks for reading. The post is about women who have done their best to undermine my efforts in life, so I think it's understandable that I'm not exactly pleased with those acts. I never said I felt this way about 'every female I come in contact with' or I probably wouldn't have even had the young lady in question as a friend in the first place. X
@Carrymel
I know that not all women are like this, the point of the post is addressing women that are. Once again life is not black and white, no one is ever going to instantly know who they can and cannot trust, these things will always take time. I'm not a social cripple; I understand that not all women aren't two faced. Unfortunately some are, and several turned out to be my friends! X
O.M.G, I totally feel waht you are saying! There was a point in time when I was like "F, women" , like literally. I had a bunch of bad situations happen with backstabbing women. I didn't understand it b/c I tried to be so nice to all women. I love to empower women in all ways but, it seemed like I was wearing a sign that said " Be mean to her, hate on her, try to take her man" ... or something of the sort. lol I began to get bitter but, I digress. I realized there are just mean ppl in the world period. There are plenty of nice women that I've met that are real women. The women that were conniving and rude generally have issues with self-esteem or you just never know what a person is going through. I just like to make sure I'm pleasant and sweet to everybody b/c you never know how nice gestures can effect someone in a positive way. :)
ReplyDelete@ Tarah oh gosh I didn't even mention 'the try and take her man' women I've encountered haha, yeh it's a bad situation to keep getting into, but hopefully I've finally weeded out the last few of these two faced types. And you're right it must be down to low self esteem wanting to ruin someone else's life in order to make oneself feel better! Here's hoping for meeting some positive new female friends in the future!! Xx
ReplyDeleteAwesome post Kam! I can so relate! I really don't get along with very many females because most are just catty and backstabbing.
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad to see I'm not alone.
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@Nicole Alicia
ReplyDeleteThanks hun, yeh it seems to be a bit of a taboo to mention, but the more we call these women out on their flaws, the less of them there will be! Yeh I'm trying to keep my posts more regular lol Xx